She believes in herself, and knows she is valuable standing alone. A woman who is confident knows who she is and what she believes, and holds onto that in her interactions with others. There is something about a confident woman that exudes beauty and attraction to a man. Ladies, these are the things that make you unique and set you apart from every other woman. They are looking for a woman to be fully herself-personality, quirks, deficits and all. They’re not looking for a woman who pretends to be into sports, cars, sex or anything else she thinks her man wants. When it comes to attracting a real man, there is no need to pretend. Of course, men are not simply looking for a woman who is real with her appearance, but real with who she is. Obviously, looking good is not a bad thing, but there is something about the beauty of a real woman that far exceeds the plastic Barbie version of ourselves so many women strive for and believe in. This “realness” manifests itself partially in physical ways. It’s easy for women to look at the billboards and magazines that fill our minds with airbrushed beauty and enhanced bodies and think that being “real” makes you less than the others.īut I’ve found that real men are attracted to a woman who reveals her natural self. It’s sometimes hard to believe being “real” is attractive to a man. Here are some qualities Godly men have told me they’re looking for in their brides-to-be: Realness But sex appeal has little value in the equation of a healthy and meaningful relationship.

As women, we’re often told that our value and the quality of our relationships are directly tied to our sex appeal.

Just as women are not satisfied in defining a real man by his muscle mass and sex drive, real men are shifting their perception of what they are looking for in a woman. And many times as women, we believe those lies and try to measure up to a standard we were never meant to follow. In fact, if this were an actual ad, it would make most women cringe.īut the ironic thing is that though this ad seems so irreverent and disrespectful, it is often these very lies we are fed through movies, music and pop-culture as the way to a man’s heart. I can pretty much guarantee an ad like this wouldn’t draw much attention from females. Would prefer to keep conversation entirely shallow-limited to pop culture and materialism.” Preferably someone who is lacking in goals, neglective of dreams and aimless in direction to allow for me to become center stage. Her best qualities must be external appearance and sexual appeal. “Single 27-year-old male, searching for a life-partner. Click here to read yesterday’s post, “What Women Want in a Godly Man.” Editor’s Note: This is the second in a two part series of what people are looking for godly marriage material.

What men want in a woman